I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men. But the ridiculousness of my situation was embarrassingly obvious in the very instant he asked the question.
If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset. I knew that - in light of my certainty - my relationship with her was pointless.
the age-thirty crisis.' After the relative upheaval of the early 30s, the middle to late 30s are often characterized by settling down: 'the establishment phase', involving 'what we would call major life investments—work, family, friends, community activities, and values.' People in their thirties may increase the financial and emotional investments they make in their lives, and may have been employed long enough to gain promotions and raises.
They often become more focused on advancing their careers and gaining stability in their personal lives—'with marriage and child-rearing,' starting a family, coming to the fore as priorities.
we must make crucially important choices regarding marriage, family, work, and lifestyle before we have the maturity or life experience to choose wisely.' While 'young adulthood is filled with avid quests for intimate relationships and other major commitments involving career and life goals', there is also "a parallel pursuit for the formulation of a set of moral values".
Reaching adulthood in modern society is not always a linear or clean transition.
As generations continue to adapt, new markers of adulthood are created that add different social expectations of what it means to be an adult.
Daniel Levinson suggested that the first phase of early adulthood comes to a close around twenty-eight to thirty, when 'at about 28 the provisional character of the twenties is ending and life is becoming more serious...
Luckily, by your mid-twenties, along with staying in when you feel like it and discovering a newfound appreciation for sheet masks and facial moisturizers, you simply stop being able to deal with the same bullshit you used to. Obviously, emergencies and unexpected layoffs happen, but if it’s been a year since he seriously looked for a job because his parents don’t mind bankrolling his studio apartment while he figures out his art, it’s a major turn-off. In my early 20s, I dated a guy who not only never made me laugh, but the only time I ever heard *him* laugh was at videos of people falling off of trampolines and getting hurt. Actively trying to impress the people in your life. The insecurity that prompts you to date men who never post pics with you and don’t introduce you to their friends thankfully fades with age.
Turns out, there’s lots to love about women of a certain age.
Men in their 40s add: “Women over 30 have stopped putting metal through their lips and tongues which makes it easier to kiss them.
Here are 12 things that become more important as you get older:1. Being able to comfortably use his shower without focusing on the mildew and beard shavings embedded along the edge of the tub is a pleasure no woman should EVER deny herself.2. If he writes off caring about he looks and actually thinks that wearing the same ill-fitting Levis for the past five years is cute, this man is a narrow-minded baby. Plus, nothing will make you madder than that same guy ordering the prix fixe at brunch when you’re the one covering the tab. Being able to count on his cooking skills (or at least his help in the kitchen). But the guys who never offer or half-heartedly do it for two minutes just so they can feel ok asking for a 20 minute blowjob are pretty much impossible to justify anymore. Because you have better things to do than worry about your boyfriend being on his phone when your BFF is talking to him or not at least offering to help your mom with the dishes (it doesn’t matter that you both know she’ll say no, just offer!
I will die on this hill: there is nothing hotter than a guy who greets you with grilled cheese when you get home late and skipped dinner.