I’m right there in the trenches online at single parents' dating sites and on apps, looking for love and, mostly, looking to stay out of trouble.
Sometimes it seems I’m swimming in a very shallow dating pool, but I haven’t given up and taken in fifty cats. So here’s the down-low on dating sites I’ve tried as a SWM (single working mother). And remember: You can do it at home, at night after the kids go to bed, in your pajamas if you want. You set it up through your Facebook account and set your preferences within minutes.
Overall: Best things about apps: • They’re free unless you go for upgrades. • Unlike websites, creepy guys out of your age range and distance cannot contact you.
Phone apps are quick to install and use but often come with glitches. Additionally, because men tend to simply look at the photos without reading the profile blurb, some were caught off-guard and turned off when they discovered I was a mom. Additional apps to try: • Hinge • JSwipe (the newest Jewish dating app) Match Pros: Match is obviously well-known, so chances are there will be a fair selection of guys (though I can’t promise they’ll be great).
You won’t waste time filling out large forms and questionnaires, and your pictures are right there on Facebook.
(Caveat: Don’t use photos of you with your kids or of them alone, for their safety.
From search alone you only know age and distance, and then it’s up to the men to fill in the blanks briefly with some profile description. This leaves you wondering things like: • How tall is he? (My experience with Tinder was that men could waste your precious single-mom minutes messaging you back and forth.) Bumble’s biggest plus: You can “take back” a negative, left swipe for free (unlike Tinder)!
She is a pastoral family counselor and has parented birth, step, adopted and foster children.
Dating isn't a single mom's top priority, so help her arrange things so she can get out with you.
Let her know you understand that her kids come first.
Swapping a few stories about your kids could also inject humor into your conversation and break the ice on your first date.
It's common for the kids to want mom and dad to bet back together.