People are shocked when I respond “mutual friends.” How could a girl in her early 20s be friends with people in their late 30s?
Well, I was (and still am) friends with a select crew of musicians and creatives in Los Angeles, and my boyfriend happened to be a part of that scene.
In general, there’s a stigma that a younger woman dates an older man because he’s more powerful and can essentially take care of her.
What helped me most was talking about how wonderful he is leading up to their meet and asking my older sister to talk to them too.
Getting awkward questions (wait, do you know each other?! I find it difficult to explain to people how my relationship came to be.
I’m often asked how we met—and not in a giddy kind of way (it’s more like concern).
That said, there are not-so-little things that can cause friction too.
Keeping in mind what I’ve learned from my own relationship and anecdotes I’ve picked up from women in similar situations, I’ve outlined the perks and challenges of dating an older man. I get asked a lot of questions about my boyfriend’s finances (why else would I date someone much older, right? It’s not actually anybody’s business, but I can tell you that I’ve never dated anyone because of money.