Require him to be a gentlemen This should go without saying.
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Have your child sign i MOM’s Cell Phone Contract.] 3. Well, just know that I’ve taught my son to look for the kind of girl who keeps more hidden than seen. Sure my son is fun, but he’s also a student, and in our house; school comes before fun. No, I won’t hide in the backseat or stalk you when you’re with my son, but he and I have an agreement that he checks in often with home, and let’s me know where he is and where he’s going.
And, the bonus is that you’ll get on my good side, too. That means he won’t be taking you to the mall, the movies or out to dinner on a school night. Also, secret meetings and clandestine adventures will be discovered—I have my ways!
I will ask you a lot of questions and make sure you know that I know how special my son is. No, I’m not going to be nosey, rude or obsessive about it But, if my son’s phone just happens to be laying on the table, and I see he’s gotten a text, I might take a look at it.
Unfortunately, I have come to realize that men are surprised when a woman waits for him to open the door. Don’t ever get in that car until he opens your door.
I thought, it will all change when we can be in the same town. When I had the opportunity to move his response, “I’m not ready for you in my backyard.” Done. If he gets it and holds it open for you, he just earned a second date. A NEW rule follower expects to be courted, properly. If you are a year out of your divorce or end to your relationship, and you’re ready to date, and commit to following these NEW rules. If you are not quite ready yet, I think that is a great place to be. Although now that I’ve written this, I may never get a second date.
I seriously damaged my healing from my divorce by allowing myself to be in a relationship that had no future. You wait and watch to see what he does with that door. Don’t you want them to see you treated like a lady? This might sound contradictory to every NEW rule here, but I promise you this makes sense. If this dude has passed rules 1-9, it’s time to let him help you. If you need your TV hung up in one of those wall mounts, and this dude steps up, brings over his tool set, and volunteers to do it for you, don’t you get all strong independent woman on him. It’s time to be a little vulnerable and allow him to show you the kind of helpful loving man that he is. In the meantime while you follow these rules you will save all of us a lot of heartache. You are protecting yourself, your children, and those dudes from yet another loss.
They had “introduced the kids” and were shopping for a massive home. We have become so needy in our Cinderella complex that we are willing to accept dishonest behavior if we think the dude can financially support us. So, how do you protect yourself from this sort of thing from happening again?
The last thing a single mother and her children needs is another heartbreak, or worse, another divorce.